How can some people make you feel bad?
Published 1 year, 7 months ago in My life.Over the last couple of weeks I’ve been wanting to colour my hair. I bought one of the packs from the supermarket and got my mum to help me. It’s the first time I’ve coloured it in over a year. I absolutely loved it, but a friend of the family came over this morning and the first thing she did, once she actually noticed after an hour and a half, all she could do was say what a bad job my mum did. I love the colour and think she did a fantastic job and feel quite upset. I think she might be a bit jealous because I didn’t get her to do it for me. Honestly I don’t want her anywhere near my hair. But why can one person make me feel so bad without even noticing that it has upset me? She’s already trying to make plans so she can “fix” it for me. I don’t want it fixed, I like it the way it is. She didnt say one positive thing about it. I’m not someone who has to do stuff like this every day. I don’t wear much make-up and I’m quite happy to go out some times without even brushing my hair. It’s just really upset me that she can upset me this much with only a few comments.
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That’s too bad.
here is some positive energy to conteract the negative stuff.
“Hey skymija - you look fantastic. Is that a new colour? It really suits you! Makes you look years younger. Your mum did it for you? Wow she did a great job! Would she do mine?”
Wear your new hair with pride! Don’t let this (so called) friend rain on your parade!!
DON’T! let people like that get to you, usually they’re looking for a reaction and if you give them one you’re putting them in the position they want to be. Ignore them, agree with them (sacastically), stir them up, laugh about what they’re saying, look bored by what they’re saying but DON’T let them know you’re upset. As for your hair I bet it’s great, I just did mine a radical colour and have had varying reactions, but it doesn’t matter what anyone says ‘cos I like it & thats all that is important.
Don’t take family friend or yourself so seriously sky. You like, she can sod off.
I once had long, scruffy hair and an elderly aunt insisted on criticising it every chance she got. I got sick of it and pointed out that she habitually drew her eyebrows on crooked. She never mentioned my hair again. Come to think of it she never spoke to me again.
Not so much a friend of the family as a hanger on??? She obviously needs to get a life. Just tell her you knew she wouldn’t like it and thats why you got it done that way!!!!! “Friends” like that we can all do without!
Decide whether you REALLY value this persons friendship.
Then remind yourself, only people who you care about can upset you.
If that doesnt help, go outside, grab the first three people you see, and play hop scotch, or leap frog.
I guarantee you, that you wont feel bad after that.
cheerio, with the emphasis on cheeri
theshadowmaster
Your friend’s opinion is negative and insenstive. People see the world through their own eyes. They will always see differently to us so you can’t win. Rest easy - I’m sure you look cool. If you’re happy, that’s all that matters. Life is too short - sweating about the “small stuff” is wasted energy.
ROFL @ fossil
If you like it and you are happy with it, then that’s all that matters ! I am sure it looks great
*hug*
Cheerio !
Thanks guys! Had a bit of a giggle with some of the things you’ve written,it’s a bit too dark to play hopscotch now theshadow, but will definately have to save that one for later! I mentioned she was a family friend, if I had my way she wouldn’t be coming over at 9am every monday morning! I just have to put up with her a bit. I was just lucky that my boss called me into work at 11 and I could leave the rest of the family with her and go and play. I work in Child care so the kids soon lifted my spirits. Thanks again for the sympathy, I feel much better now.
You’ll always find plenty of friends at Nook!!!!
Hey, relax. Don’t let her get to ya. There are heaps of people like that. I knew a fellow - WAIT! Don’t pass me by. Hear me out please!
I knew a fellow who always put me down. I bought a new house and he came over, uninvited, his eyes kept wondering and before he could open his mouth I said, “dont tell me, I bet your looking for faults to highlight isn’t it?” He had a smirk on his face but didn’t say a word. He tries his best to visit me, but I see nothing good can come from knowing him so I keep my distance.
I’m just showing you how I sometimes deal with ugly people.I do this with everyone and I realise there is truth in that saying…how did it go…true friends are hard to find? Anyhow, I feel you’ll make the right decision.
some people just sap your energy. I’d be making excuses every time this one comes over. Make a plan to only surround yourself with positive people.
Hello golden1, how ar you and the golden1
cheeri
theshadowmaster
Whenever you see this person coming over, BOLT the doors SHUT and do NOT open!
A true friend is someone who loves you and accepts you for the way they are.
Thanks again everyone for all your comments.
Jealous cow or True Friend who is concerned about your appearance… your choice.